Q8: Moved and dislike new town

I like questions where I consciously have no idea what the answer is.  This is one of those questions.  Let’s see what Upstairs has to say about this question.

My spouse and I moved to a small town because we wanted to have a more simple life.  But it’s not what we thought it would be.  The houses are too close, the town is too small and I am unhappy here.

Wherever you go, there you are.  Isn’t that a familiar saying?  It is a truth.  A truth that you cannot run away from yourself.  Whatever challenges you had in one town, you will create in another town.  Now you know that moving isn’t the problems solver you thought it would be.  Sometimes the only problem solver is in-depth work.  Work in-depth of your soul.  Deeper, inner work.  To change from the core, those beliefs, those worries, those concerns, those fears, the guilts, the remorse and all those cool emotions.  To delve into those deeper emotions and to move past them into a higher, better feeling state.  You see, what you think about most is what you live.  If you think about the guilts and remorse, you will relive them again and again.  If you train your mind to think about the positive things, you will relive them again and again.  Some say, “fake it til you make it”.   

You trained yourself, with the help of surrounding others, the status quo of how things are, your role models, and all that, to think negatively.  You were not born thinking negatively, you learned that.  You can unlearn it in the same way, by repetition of positive thought consciously.  However, the new learning is a tougher path than the first learning, as it generally is not as supported.  As the child, you took the negativity that was spoon-fed to you.  As an adult, you must train yourself to think positively, quite often going against the grain of surrounding others.  

Now that you have moved, realize that moving back or moving again isn’t going to solve your concerns.  When you begin changing inside, you will find that your neighborhood will change to suit your new viewpoint.  Maybe people will move and better neighbors will move in, maybe you will move to a new place, maybe the antics of certain neighbors will diminish and a more likeable surrounding will ensue.  You create your neighborhood, so if you find yourself in a neighborhood you dislike, take measures to create again, only better.  And this doesn’t mean to force changes, but just to go within and find peace and happiness within.  Soon, you will see your neighborhood change faces and feel.